What Is It Like to See The Beaches Live?
Four women from Toronto run the night like a breakup support group that turns into a party, and it all builds to a room full of strangers screaming the chorus of "Blame Brett" and blaming their exes on one real guy.
What to Know Before You Go
- 1It's part show, part group therapy.
Jordan Miller works the room like a breakup-support host, asking who's been dumped and trading her own disasters for yours. Lean in, because the oversharing is the whole point.
- 2Learn "Blame Brett."
It's the guaranteed peak. Jordan asks "Are you ready to blame your fucking exes?" and the mostly female room screams the chorus, pinning every breakup on her actual ex, Brett. Knowing the words puts you inside the loudest moment of the night.
- 3Someone gets pulled onstage.
Before "Did I Say Too Much," the band brings a fan up to tell an embarrassing TMI story. It could be you. If not, you get to scream support for a stranger's messy love life.
- 4Dress with your friends.
The crowd mirrors the band: bows in hair, mini-skirts, camisoles, Y2K sparkle. This is a get-ready-together show, not a jeans-and-tee gig.
- 5Openers change by city, but they're named.
US fall 2025 had Debbii Dawson, the UK 2026 run had Belfast duo Dea Matrona, and the Chicago Gather No Moss stop had Brennan Wedl and Hello Mary. Check your date.
- 6Hang around after the last song.
At some shows the band lingers and hands out setlists, guitar picks, and drumsticks to the front rows.
- 7You're watching a real four-woman band.
Leandra Earl and Kylie Miller trade guitar leads, and the solos on "Can I Call You in the Morning?" are a highlight. This is not a singer plus hired hands.
At a Glance
- Show Length
- 1h 25m to 1h 30m
- Songs Per Show
- 18 to 20
- Costume Changes
- 0
- Setlist Variety
- Opener rotates, "Blame Brett" anchors the end
- Punctuality
- Starts on schedule
- Venue Type
- Arenas
- Career Shows
- 440+
- Touring Since
- 2013
What It's Actually Like
The Whole Night Is a Breakup Turned Into a Party
The organizing principle of a Beaches show is not a setlist, it's a communal breakup recovery that keeps tipping over into a dance party. Jordan Miller runs the room like a group-therapy host who happens to play bass, stopping to ask "Anybody been through a breakup before?" and then answering herself first. At the Salt Shed in Chicago in August 2025, the release show for their third album, she recounted drinking a whole bottle of wine and smoking a full pack of cigarettes after a split, then claiming "a table for one, no, a table for me and you," inviting the crowd into what she called her class on overcoming relationship burnouts. You do not sit and watch this show. You get enrolled in it. If you have ever been dumped, the band assumes you came to do something about it together.
"Blame Brett" Is a Mass Ex-Blaming Ritual
Every night builds to the same peak, and it is not subtle. Jordan Miller sets up the band's most-streamed song by asking the crowd, "Are you ready to blame your fucking exes?" Then she points at the audience over and over while a room that skews heavily female screams the chorus, collectively pinning their own heartbreaks on her real ex, Brett Emmons of the band The Glorious Sons. At Austin City Limits in 2024 the reviewer watched the crowd of predominantly women do exactly that, blaming their exes by name on one poor guy. It has been played at nearly 200 documented shows, the band's second-most-performed song after "T-Shirt." The joke of it is that you are furious about a stranger's ex, and it feels fantastic.
“The band reminded me of those girls you meet in a bathroom at 2am and they tell you their whole life story.”
A Fan Gets Pulled Onstage to Overshare
There is a recurring bit that turns a stranger into the main character for a few minutes. Before the 2025 single "Did I Say Too Much," a song literally about oversharing too early, the band invites an audience member up to tell the room an embarrassing story. At the 9:30 Club in DC in September 2025, a volunteer named Michaela took the mic to recount a tangled crush on her personal trainer and the time she word-vomited on them. At Barrowlands in Glasgow the following February, a fan shared a post-breakup humiliation and the whole crowd screamed support about her ex. Jordan Miller calms the volunteer's nerves first, which is the tell that this is care, not a roast. It is one of the few shows where the most memorable moment might belong to someone standing near you.
The Room Is Mostly Women, and It Tells You Before They Play
You can read the crowd before the band even appears. At Barrowlands, the reviewer clocked the queue for the women's toilets running "past the merch stand and into the main stairwell," which she noted is the venue's shorthand for an all-female band with a strong female audience. At the Salt Shed, the pre-show playlist did the same work: the whole room sang Kelly Clarkson's "Since U Been Gone" and Icona Pop's "I Love It" at full volume, arms linked, before the Beaches took the stage. This is a genuinely queer-friendly, women-first room, and the band builds the night around that fact rather than pretending it away.
"Lesbian of the Year" Is the Quiet Emotional Peak
The loudest band in the room also has a hush moment, and it belongs to guitarist Leandra Earl. Her coming-out song "Lesbian of the Year" gets stripped back, at Barrowlands down to just a keyboard and Jordan Miller's vocal, while Earl tells her own story of finding her queerness later in life. The room goes silent and rapt. At Austin City Limits, Earl mentioned the festival was where she first realized she was gay five years earlier, and Jordan Miller added "Gay love starts in Austin." The catharsis at a Beaches show is specific: it is honesty and queer joy, not pyro. That is what people mean when they say they left feeling let in on the secret.
No Hard Feelings Tour (2025-2026)
The band's biggest tour to date, behind their third album No Hard Feelings, released August 29, 2025. The 2025 North American leg played theaters and clubs, and the 2026 run is a real scale-up into arenas: Madison Square Garden, TD Garden in Boston, Scotiabank Arena in Toronto, State Farm Arena in Atlanta, and an outdoor Red Rocks date in September, plus European and Australian stops.
The Slumber-Party Open
At the Salt Shed, all four members came out dressed for what one reviewer called a female slumber party in adulthood, in lingerie, camisoles, and bras, and led a countdown from ten to one like a New Year's Eve ball drop before exploding into "Last Girls at the Party." The staging is confetti, strobes, and lighting rather than set-piece spectacle. The band called that night "the first show of the No Hard Feelings era," and the countdown open has anchored the current run since.
New Songs, Same Clarity
The No Hard Feelings material lands harder live than on record. Reviewers describe the new songs as brash and bold, the kind of pop-rock songs made for jumping on a hotel bed, but coming from a place of post-breakup clarity rather than pure spite. Setlist mainstays across the current tour include "Touch Myself," "Me & Me," "Cigarette," "Grow Up Tomorrow," "Shower Beer," "Dirty Laundry," "Edge of the Earth," and "Takes One to Know One," with "Blame Brett" as the finish. The deluxe cuts "Perfect 10" and "Hypothetical" were live-debuted at All Things Go in 2026 and have started working their way in.
Openers and One-Off Covers
Support changes by leg but is always named, so check your specific date: Debbii Dawson on US fall 2025 dates, Dea Matrona in the UK in 2026, and Brennan Wedl with Hello Mary at the Rolling Stone Gather No Moss stop in Chicago. The band also treats rare covers as a gift. At Barrowlands they played Stevie Nicks' "Silver Springs," introducing it as a recent BBC recording they had never done live and probably never would again. Watch for a curveball like that rather than expecting it.
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Fan Culture and Traditions
Before You Go
Blame Your Ex on "Blame Brett"
Learn the "Blame Brett" chorus, because the room screams it as a mass ex-blaming ritual led by Jordan Miller.
Dress for the Slumber Party
The crowd mirrors the band's Y2K, bows-and-camisoles aesthetic, so get ready with your friends beforehand.
At the Show
Oversharing Onstage Before "Did I Say Too Much"
A fan gets pulled up to tell an embarrassing TMI story, then the crowd screams support about their ex.
"Lesbian of the Year" Hush
Leandra Earl tells her coming-out story during a stripped-back "Lesbian of the Year" and the room goes silent.
Picks and Setlists to the Front Row
The band often lingers after the last song and hands out drumsticks, guitar picks, and setlists to front-row fans.
Merch
Merch intel for the Beaches is thin compared to how much fans talk about the show itself, and reliable on-site price sheets for tees, hoodies, and posters did not surface, so treat pricing as unconfirmed rather than assuming a number. Official merch runs through the band's own store at thebeachesband.com. The 2026 tour offers VIP and experience packages that bundle early entry or pit priority with an exclusive merch item such as a poster, tote, or enamel pin, plus a laminate and commemorative ticket, though inclusions and whether a concert ticket is included vary by city, so read your specific event listing before buying. The most reliable free "merch" is the after-show giveaway: linger up front and you might catch a setlist, a pick, or a drumstick.
Tour History
No Hard Feelings Tour
The biggest tour to date, behind the third album *No Hard Feelings*.
Blame My Ex Tour
The breakout era, behind the 2023 album *Blame My Ex* and the viral "Blame Brett," which hit No.
Early Years and Opening Slots
Formed in Toronto in 2009 as Done With Dolls, renamed The Beaches in 2013.
Frequently Asked Questions
It plays like a breakup support group that turns into a dance party, fronted by a four-woman Toronto band who trade oversharing with the crowd all night. Jordan Miller runs the room like a group-therapy host, a fan gets pulled onstage to confess something embarrassing, and the whole thing builds to a mass ex-blaming singalong on "Blame Brett." The crowd skews heavily female and queer-friendly, and the peaks come from communal catharsis rather than production spectacle.
Headline shows run about 1h 25m to 1h 30m, based on setlist.fm timings across the No Hard Feelings Tour, which average around 1h 27m. Festival sets are shorter, closer to an hour, and drop most of the between-song storytelling. Expect roughly 18 to 20 songs at a headline date.
Dress like you're getting ready for a night out with your friends, because the crowd mirrors the band's Y2K slumber-party look: bows in hair, mini-skirts, camisoles, sparkle. It's a standing, dancing, singalong room rather than a mosh pit, so wear what you can move and scream in. Turning up with a group in a coordinated going-out look is part of the fun here.
Both. The current set leans on *No Hard Feelings* and *Blame My Ex* material like "Last Girls at the Party," "Me & Me," "Edge of the Earth," and the "Blame Brett" finale, but pre-2020 cuts such as "Fascination" and "Desdemona" still surface for longtime fans. They also drop the occasional rare cover, like Stevie Nicks' "Silver Springs" at Barrowlands, framed as a one-time thing.
Yes, and the draw is Jordan Miller's belt (reviewers have compared it to Pat Benatar on "T-Shirt") plus the band's between-song honesty. This is a real four-woman band, with Leandra Earl and Kylie Miller trading guitar leads rather than a singer over backing tracks. Fans consistently describe leaving feeling like they were let in on a secret, not sold a spectacle.
They start on schedule, hitting the listed set time after the opener rather than making you wait. On headline nights the band tends to come on roughly two hours after doors, once the support act has finished, and festival slots have run right on their scheduled start. Plan around the venue's posted set time.
Yes, especially if you want a room full of people turning heartbreak into a party rather than a polished arena spectacle. The value is the communal catharsis: the "Blame Brett" ex-blaming ritual, the onstage oversharing bit, and the queer-joyful hush of "Lesbian of the Year." If you can only catch a festival slot, know it's shorter and cuts most of the storytelling that makes the headline show special.
"Blame Brett" is the guaranteed peak and the loudest moment of the night, thanks to the mass ex-blaming singalong. "Last Girls at the Party" tends to open the show with a countdown and sometimes reprises to close it, "Lesbian of the Year" is the emotional centerpiece, and "T-Shirt" shows off Jordan Miller's belt. "Did I Say Too Much" doubles as the fan-onstage moment.
The No Hard Feelings Tour is a major scale-up, jumping from the clubs and theaters of the Blame My Ex Tour (2023-2024) into arenas like Madison Square Garden and Scotiabank Arena in 2026. It adds the third-album material and a slumber-party staging with a ten-to-one countdown open, while keeping the "Blame Brett" finale and the crowd rituals intact. The Blame My Ex Tour was the breakout that made those rituals a fixture in the first place.
Yes. They made their Coachella debut in the Gobi tent in April 2025 and brought out Australian artist G Flip, who co-wrote and co-produced "Last Girls at the Party," for that song and again for "Blame Brett." You can read more about the festival in our [Coachella guide](/festivals/coachella). It marked the moment their breakout crossover went fully international.
They are a four-woman band from Toronto, and the city runs through the show, from Jordan Miller's Canadian-inflected vocal to the hometown arena dates. Our [Toronto concert guide](/cities/toronto) covers the venues they anchor at home. The band formed there in 2009 as Done With Dolls before becoming The Beaches in 2013.
Yes, and reviewers keep noting it, from the "predominantly women" crowd at Austin City Limits to the women's-toilet queue at Barrowlands that ran past the merch stand. It's a women-first, notably queer-friendly room, and the band leans into that with songs like "Lesbian of the Year" and the shared-breakup framing of the whole night. The ACL banter has even name-checked artists like [Reneé Rapp](/artists/renee-rapp), telling the crowd to sing loud enough for her to hear.
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